Why Is There So Much Contradicting Life Advice?

Why Is There So Much Contradicting Life Advice?


Have you ever come across contradicting advice? You might have read a book by someone you
admire and they say that if you want similar results, you should do X. At first it makes a ton of sense and it feels
like a whole new world has opened in front of you. However some time later, you come across another
piece of advice by someone else in a similar position. But the advice is completely opposite to the
previous advice you received. They say that you should avoid X and do Y
instead. So now you have two different people, both
at a level you want to achieve, telling you different things. And it might confuse you, as to why that is. For example let’s take a look at this contradicting
advice: “If you want to succeed, you have to work more and outwork everyone.” but then you also have advice that goes something
like this: “Work less, but work smart.” What do you do? Do you work over 60 hours per week to beat
your competition? Or do you work less and only focus on the
most important part of your work? Both pieces of information can be useful. However it depends on what path you’re taking
and what stage of life you’re at. If I tell someone: “Oh don’t work so hard,
take a break”, but that person is homeless, then it’s bad advice. Instead, he would benefit from trying to find
more work. However telling someone who’s working himself
to the ground, to rest a little, that’s good advice. He shouldn’t take on additional work and would
benefit from taking a break. Even in my videos where I share different
ideas, some of them won’t apply to you. For example let’s say there are two different
people watching one of my videos. One of them is Mike, the other is Jane. Mike is an introverted guy. He likes to spend his time alone, so he rarely
goes out. Whenever he gets an invite to a social event, he declines it because of his social
anxiety. Because of that, Mike often feels lonely,
since he barely has any friends. However, Jane is an extroverted girl. She loves being around people and is often
the life of the party. Whenever she gets invited somewhere, she always accepts the invite. This results into Jane not prioritizing her
time and being dragged around by other people. Now in the video both of them are watching,
I give this advice: You should learn to say “No” to unimportant requests more often. Is the advice I gave good? Yes and no. For Jane, this is good advice. She already has a lot of friends, but she
doesn’t have enough time to spend on other things, which are important to her. However for Mike, this is bad advice. He needs to learn to say “Yes” to more social
opportunities, instead of “No”. He wants to have friends and not feel lonely
after all. If I did a 180 degree turn, and in the video
talked about how “you should say “Yes” more often”, the results would be similar. Just in this case, Mike would benefit from
the advice, Jane would not. Two people can hear the same idea, but it
would resonate with one person, while it might not make sense to the other. That’s why advice and ideas tend to contradict. We’re all unique and we’re in different stages
of life. And different people, require different solutions. So we need to acknowledge that there isn’t
“one size fits all” advice out there. Most advice is highly generalized and is not
individualistic after all. That is why it’s up to you to identify what
you can use and what you cannot. Then apply whatever advice you find useful
to your current situation. If it doesn’t relate to you, you don’t have
to use it and feel free to dismiss it. But you might find that later in life, that
same advice that you used to find useless, is now useful to you. If we look back at Mike, he found the advice
to say “No”, pointless. So he dismissed it and instead he started
saying “Yes” to opportunities where he could be social and meet new people. However, over the years, Mike built his social
circle and made more than enough friends. Soon he found himself stretched too thin. Saying “Yes” to most social opportunities,
started to take away his time and energy from his business, which was now his top priority. Suddenly he found the advice to say “No” to
requests, very useful. It’s good to hear different advice as it can
offer a different perspective. One that you didn’t consider at first. Not every idea will apply to you in the moment,
but it could in the future. That’s why you shouldn’t dismiss it completely. But once a certain idea or advice has served
its purpose, let it go. If it doesn’t work for you anymore, don’t
use it. Ideas are like tools. You use them when they’re useful to you. Do you use a hammer when your situation calls
for a screwdriver? No, of course not. You use a screwdriver. But just because using a screwdriver has worked
for you at one point, it doesn’t mean it’s going to be the only tool you ever use. There might come a point in your life where
using it won’t get you the results you want. And it might be better to use a hammer. Once a tool has served its purpose, you put
it away and reach for a different one. Same goes for advice and ideas. Remember: what got you here, won’t necessarily
get you there. You need to let go of the advice when it stops
applying to you, or you might stagnate. On your journey through life, you’ll definitely
come across contradicting advice on how to approach things. But you must understand that there isn’t a
straightforward answer to dealing with challenges. There is more than one way to do things after
all. Even if two ideas contradict each other, both
can be useful, just to different people in different situations. So look at your own set of circumstances and
see where you can apply the advice. It it doesn’t fit in your current situation,
you don’t have to use it. But stay open to new information and different
perspectives. You never know when an idea could come in
handy. Thanks for watching.

39 thoughts on “Why Is There So Much Contradicting Life Advice?

  1. We should take advice on the behalf of someone who knows each bit of you
    And the person is you you and only you!!!🙂🙂🙂

  2. This is what I was thinking right now, then I came across your video just after reading the LOA (Law Of Attraction) ,that says-
    You attract what you constantly think of

  3. 2:46 I realized that I should ask my self , is this works for me in my specific situation or not ?
    Thanks alot , great advice .

  4. It takes many iterations to have any chance to come near the objective truth.
    People grow, they change and attain new knowledge – yesterday's me, is not today's me

  5. Some of the advice may either work well together and some may contradict one another. It does not mean that either advice is wrong but it can work in different situations. It’s up to your awareness in how you want to apply these in certain circumstances in your life.

  6. The answer is extremely simple, different situations need different solutions. It’s not about doing one or the other, it’s about finding a balance that’s unique to each person and each situation. Therefor there isn’t really anyone who “has it all figured out”.

  7. On the one hand it's good that you made this video. On the other hand, it is sad and worrying that you have to explain something that is so obvious: every problem has it's own solution.

  8. I've been watching your channel for a long time and your channel has taught me a lot and have inspired me to create content that would help people improve themselves. If you guys don't mind, please support my channel. Cheers!

  9. i can't drink water i tried a lot but why?
    idk if you'll belive i can easily go without drinking a single drop of watet for 2 days.

  10. This is my problem with Taoism, Stoicism etc, and self improvement, taoism and etc, tells you to let things flow, lower your sense of control, become detached from any outcomes and do not strive for more and expect less from people, but in self improvement you need to be in control of yourself and discipline yourself in order to get the outcome you want , and you need to strive for more and expect more from other people. Iwant to integrate Taoism and Stoicism and all the other life-accepting, skin-thickening philosophy in my life but I still want to design my life, make other people like me, and all that materialistic stuff which both Taoism and Stoicism (regardless of their difference), advice you to avoid.

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